People ask me all the time – ‘How, how in god’s name do you what you do?!’ – referring to me being a zoo keeper, CEO of our house, building an empire and everything else that comes with it.
I’m not trying to make people feel like crap… that’s the last thing I want to do! I’m trying to show the world that ‘anything’s possible! – but you have to be hungry, like really hungry, starving to want to take control and change your life.’
This is how I have rebuilt myself. Well – that and the attitude – Ready… Fire… Aim that I have adopted… Every second of my day is planned out. My days start anywhere from 4-6am depending on my time schedule for the day. I have become very disciplined with listening to my body so throughout the day, if I loose concentration etc. I will get up, go do another load of washing, stretch, make a potent cup of coffee, go for a run… Something that will help me to completely refocus – and then I return to doing what I’m doing.
Not every mother can achieve this – AND THAT’S 150% OK! Not every mother has been through a traumatic life event such as myself – essentially that is what has given me this new perspective… this want for a better life, the ‘I’m larger than life… NOT bulletproof’ attitude.
That stick sticking out of my ass is getting longer everyday… But hey – I put it there. It’s 100% OK because I’m the most real… authentic… most down to earth bird you will ever meet and I own every behavior that feeds out of my being… Even the shit ones… You may not agree with me, and that is also OK… It is a million % OK for people to have a difference of opinion. It doesn’t have to be – “oh they lied” or “That’s not what happened” – no 2 eyes see the same thing and as humans, we as a species do not have the best communication skills…
I’m all about the energy these days! I’ve turned all hippie like… I love my Reiki, massages, being in-touch with my body, etc. It has helped me not overcome my pain – I will always be in pain, the trick I have mastered is being able to not even think about the P word… I have let pain be the driving force behind my purpose.
I wake up in the morning, coffee, exercise (OMG A WEEK AGO I STARTED SEEING DEFINITION OF MY ABS!) then I just let my day pan out how the universe intends it to… and I attack the most critical tasks that need to be completed. I make sure I’m showered with a clean kitchen before my 10pm bed time – I have a very strict sleep schedule. I’m really lucky in the sense that both my boys now sleep through. It’s all good.
“This determined young woman has taken on board the hand she has been dealt and made it work.” – Nick Dametto MP
I was recently reading an amazing book called Never give up by Joyce Meyer. No wonder it was so moving, after all it was rated # 1 New York Times…
I took a lot out of this book. One of my mentors taught me to read with a highlighter and wow hasn’t this helped in propelling me forward, closer to my version of success. One story in particular I haven’t been able to get my mind off is a story about the eagle and a chicken.
Here it is – Are you an eagle or a chicken?
Once upon a time, at a large mountainside there was an eagle nest with 4 large eagle eggs inside.
One day, an earthquake rocked the mountain causing one of the eggs to roll down to a chicken farm, located in the valley below.
The chickens knew that they must protect the eagle egg. Eventually, the eagle egg hatched and a beautiful eagle was born.
Being chickens, the chickens raised the eagle to be a chicken. The eagle loved his home and family but it seemed his spirit cried out for more.
One day, the eagle looked to the skies above and noticed a group of mighty eagles soaring. ”Oh,” the eagle cried, “I wish I could soar like those birds.”
The chickens roared with laughter, “You cannot soar like those birds. You are a chicken and chickens do not soar.” The eagle continued staring at his real family up above, dreaming that he could be like them.
Each time the eagle talked about his dreams, he was told it couldn’t be done.
That was what the eagle learned to believe. After time, the eagle stopped dreaming and continued to live his life as a chicken.
Finally, after a long life as a chicken, the eagle passed away.
The moral of the story?
You become what you believe you are. If your dream is to become an eagle, follow your dreams, not the words of chickens. Eagles do their own thing – do your own thing! You don’t have to justify yourself or any of your doings to anyone… be your own person.
Don’t live life with any regrets – every situation that raised in your past is a learning curve that you can use to better yourself for YOUR future. I emphasised your because that’s exactly what it is… IT’S YOUR LIFE – not your parents, partner, friends etc.
follow your own path in life, enjoy the journey, control negative thoughts and don’t forget to be bold. Be thankful for what you have in life and wish well upon everyone equally. Live in the now – I’m not the person you know… I’m now just somebody that you used to know. On that note – just be your wonderfully beautiful self! 😘
“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill
I have always felt that I have never actually seen anything through in my life – until I had my accident. When Andrew and I first got together, I started a certificate three in Business just to see if I could actually do it. I remember being out at the farm in the office with my mother-in-law stressed out and feeling like I was going to throw in the towel! when she sat me down and repeated the speel I made about never feeling like I have accomplished anything fully, it put my head back in the game. I went from feeling as if I would give up and be done with the course to finishing the rest of the course much quicker than I had to.
To say I have never seen anything through is an untrue statement. To me, the things I am proud of accomplishing are things you have to work hard for – have to work really hard for, I’m talking blood, sweat and many, many tears!
My thing at the moment is wanting to look like this –
And I’m not talking hot AF… no sirey!
I’m talking STRONG! The definition of strong according to dictionary.com is – having, showing, or able to exert great bodily or muscular power; physically vigorous or robust.
I would eventually love to start boxing. There’s just something about boxing that keeps me focused… maybe because it refocuses the angry bird in me haha. I did think of body building but I spoke to a few ladies who advised against it as it messes with your mindset. With a brain injury I will never be able to deal with all the mental pressures that come with it, and I’ve accepted that – now moving on.
I believe I’m quite a resilient person, and this shire (the Hinchinbrook Shire) needs more people like that. I love this place – but there is so much NEGATIVITY! and that needs to change. People need to start making time for their friends and family, when you have a spare hour (like seriously where???!!!) somewhere in your fortnight or month, take a walk on the beach, in silence, to process your thoughts and regather yourself. It was hard for me at 1st to go for a walk in silence, but now I love nothing more then the sand between my toes, the wind blowing through my hair and becoming in touch with the world around me.
So you’re all probably wandering where I am going with all of this, but I have been trying to live my life as positively as I can as of late – I couldn’t even tell you how long it has been for. However, I know in my heart, that this is how I want to live the rest of my life. I am trying my hardest to live my best life so that I will be here for as long as I can be for my boys. That to me is success.
OK… so I hope you have an hour or two to read through this post – it may take a while. Many of these things I planned on doing before my accident, but never got around to doing it. This list was composed by jotting down the first thing that came to mind, so it’s in no particular order:-
Skydiving – I have always wanted to go skydiving, ever since I saw Point Break way back in ’42’, well… maybe not that long ago – but you get my point! I was planning of jumping at Mission Beach for my 21st birthday, mum drove me to the place you go to sign up, I was all ready to go when the wind blew up to the point where the planes wouldn’t go up. It was the biggest let down! but that night black Sambucca helped dissolve that memory, if only for a short time.
Travelling – So this may take a while – there is a lot of travel I want to do! My number one travel goal is to see snow, not just the paper crap they have when you go to get your Santa photos at the ‘North Pole’ at the end of the year, but full on freeze your ass off, wet & slippery – SNOW! Ever since I was a kid I have wanted to go see snow, dad has always talked about going to Canada to see one of my grandmother’s pen pals that dad hasn’t seen since he was a wee lad. It would have been awesome to go on an overseas trip together (were really close) but as far as we have gotten is South Mole Island when I was grade 6 or 7.
Since my accident, I have wanted to travel to different parts of Australia to experience as much of our wonderful country as I can. I’d especially like to experience the Northern Territory. My husband, myself and our two boys struggle so bad with the heat in North Queensland – so lets just agree that we will have to go in the cooler months! Ayers Rock, Berry Springs Nature Park, Finke Gorge National Park, pretty much explore as much of Alice Springs as possible!
Grow a successful blog & making a living out of writing – My idea for starting this blog came early on after my accident knowing I couldn’t work again due to my fatigue, along with other factors. Now, two kids later, and a disability the only way I will ever be able to return to the workforce is if I work for the family business (agricultural). I’m really enjoying writing, I would love to study journalism or something like that, to further my knowledge in the field.
Achieve my body goals – Between giving birth to both children, I started working away to achieve my body goals and I got there (a fit size 12), but then – I fell pregnant again. This time I had so much more of a healthier pregnancy all round and at 5 weeks postpartum I’m a size 14 so I was pretty much all baby. I would love to tighten everything up, get fit again and get back down to a size 12. Once I have achieved that I would love a mummy makeover – the mummy makeover is a maybe… but my fitness goal is a must. I’m really bummed that I can’t find my before photos, when I first started my fitness journey. I am so grateful that my trainer Jaydon helped me to reach my fitness goals I had for 2018, I was able to train for 1/3 of my second pregnancy. Jaydon is the founder of Tweak Fitness.
Click here to visit Tweak Fitness – the page directs you to Tully as Jaydon no longer runs the Ingham branch.
Play soccer again – Since primary school I have played social soccer on and off till right up to my accident. I would love to get back to being fit enough to play again. I loved standing on the field with my friends playing soccer and talking… mostly talking haha!
Make a difference in someone’s life – I would love to be the reason that helps change someone’s life for the better, whether it be a family member or a complete stranger. It would be the best feeling knowing I helped change somebody’s life for the better.
Publish a book – I started to write a book just after my accident, back when I was nothing but a flaming ball of hate, angry at everyone and everything – So it was nothing more than something of a hit list. Now – I’m past all that, those from my past are barely a thought these days. I feel I would now be able to write about my accident and injuries to let the world know my story and how I have had to overcome what I have had to.
Grow confidence with public speaking – It has always been a thought to go around to schools in rural towns and discuss the way my life has changed because of a wrong decision and the dangers of quad bikes. I still have to figure out the angle I want to work on. But – problem being – I struggle with speaking to crowds and I would love to be able to be more confident with public speaking.
Get featured in media for my writing – I would love to get noticed by the radio stations firstly, to get my blog out there and to start getting more followers.
Create a documentary – I’ve been watching more and more documentaries and I’ve been thinking for years to possibly do one of my own about my story, what I’ve been through and my life now, to show others you can always turn aa negative situation into a positive.
Create my dream house – I would love to create my dream house layout so when we are ready to build (in like ten years) it’s what I want – a well thought out and functional home for us.
Take kids to Disneyland – I’ve always wanted to go to Disneyland and we have decided that if we don’t take the kids to do Movieworld and Seaworld on the Goldcoast when our oldest boy is five we will take them over to Dreamworld when our oldest is ten. I hope this is defiantly something we can do! the big kid in me is screaming to go! haha.
Go on a health & wellness retreat – Since started living a healthier lifestyle years ago, I have really been interested in health and wellness retreats, namely those that are more about detoxifying the body and learning about looking after the mind, body & soul. Some teach you about the benefits of safe and effective detox methods through proper nutrition, balanced diet and specialised holistic therapies. Proper trained clinics offer detox programs that understand how your body is the perfect machine for cleansing, and offer a health boosting holiday designed to optimise the complex detoxing mechanisms of your body. They allow you to work with experts to identify different approaches that best suit your needs. Located on the most stunning destinations in the world, you are bound for a detox journey you will never forget, it’s all about what destination and price attracts you as they range from $3000.00-$12000.00, it all depends how long you want your stay to be and what you want included in your program.
Finally go on a honeymoon – I would love one day to actually go on a honeymoon. We got married just before the sugar cane crushing season was about to start in the Herbert River District in 2018 so we couldn’t go anywhere. Now – I don’t want to leave my babies for a few weeks… ARE YOU MAD?! So it may end up having to be a family-moon if ever there is one.
Well, that’s my bucket list and these are just the things I really want to do. I never had a bucket list until my near death experience, my very, extremely near death experience. If money wasn’t an issue and I had to choose just one thing I could tick off, I would have to go with travelling. There is just so much more of this world I want to see. I was surprised to see how much I learnt from writing this article. I never took the time to think through the things I would like to do before I die and I never thought it could reveal something about my personality that I did not already know.