How bad do you ACTUALLY want it…

Lots of people want to get in shape, do great things, travel the world, live an adventure and tell a good story with their life, but there’s a big difference between saying you want something and wanting something bad enough to do something about it.

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You can say I’ve been smashed in the face by life – this is my time to hit back! You need to show up EVERY.SINGLE.DAY to achieve greatness, so I’m going for it and I’m not looking back! Champions take full responsibility for their outcomes that is the reason why I physiologically need to spend at least an hour at gym a day – even if it is just walking on the treadmill, doing some cardio and spending a bit of time doing physio on my arm.

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I know I talk a lot… I love to talk… I talk in my sleep – they say you should spend less time talking and more time pumping iron, well, I show up and talk through my whole session because I know what I’m going to achieve – The best freaking version of self-made you ever did see!

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Something I need to crank my intensity on is my morning routine – it’s defiantly a challenge with two babies… I didn’t say it was impossible but! I don’t believe in the world impossible – that word is for losers!

They say you should start the day in silence to better plan around your day. I try not to use my phone for 1st hour of being awake – mainly because I’m feeding children, putting the washing on, dressing children, dressing myself, remembering to feed myself… and the list goes on!

My day looks like this… I have a monstrous coffee, a Voost energy tablet (like Berocca but with guarana) and I eat a well balanced meal to fuel me for my insanely active day! I have a list for everyday of all of my to do’s. I use google calendar (which is awesome!) because when your phone updates it’s on the cloud so you don’t loose anything. I check for any appointments and I go from there. Somewhere in there I take some time for me to say my affirmations – it may be while I’m putting on the washing or cleaning a shitty bum… who knows!

I do at least a load of washing everyday. I have become much more functional with only having one active arm and have adapted quite well to be able to complete almost all my daily tasks by myself. I have actively been working to become more independent – even with my babies.

I usually write or do my content planning (which is a mess BTW) when the boys go for a nap or when the kids next door come to play. I try to be ahead but it’s difficult to find the time with my crazy lifestyle!

In life, I set goals – but it comes down to how bad do you ACTUALLY want it! A champion starts counting when pain arrives, I will eventually step up to that level!

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I have a vision…

You can achieve greatness – you just need someone to believe in you – For me I believe it’s easy for family to agree with what you want to achieve… But when people stop you in the street to tell you how proud of you – that’s when you get that warm feeling in your heart and at that moment your fueled with a little more motivation to keep going.

If I can push myself this hard living life with chronic pain – what’s stopping you? I’m a million times dedicated to show the world what AWESOME actually looks like! There is greatness inside of you – all you need is for someone to push you until you believe in yourself enough to take the first step.

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My destiny is greatness – I’m not sill here living a life I nearly lost to not achieve greatness. It will take some time… I know that – BUT I’m willing to work for it, even more I’m willing to bleed for it!

EVERYONE WANTS TO EAT… ONLY FEW ARE WILLING TO HUNT!

I AM WILLING AND COMMITTED TO CREATING THE BEST EVER VERSION OF ME!

IF YOUR IN THE ROAD OF MY GOALS – I SUGGEST YOU MOVE…

Aquo Xx

Keeping a strong mindset…

As everyone knows – I’m a pretty freaking hard-headed freakishly strong kinda crazy bird… life’s too short to be just like everyone else – and I’ve been shown that first hand. I have absolutely no desire to fit in.

People wonder how I do it – Keeping a strong mindset, since living with a TBI is not easy… I have educated myself for years on how to overcome my struggles to enable me to live my best life.

The first big side effect I overcome was ANGER. I won’t go into it today – but feel free to read the article from Brainline by clicking ‘Anger.’

I have found different triggers that calm me down and prevent me from being a raging physco! – although the angry bird Aquo feels the urge to surface every so often, I try my absolute hardest to keep her burried deep deep down. She’s not a nice person.

I love podcasts because they make you think. I have become a religous follower of ‘The mentor mindset’, ‘Maximize your influence’ and ‘the productiviyist’ – they help me in so many ways push through the day and enable me to reach my short term goals.

Every so often I will Google fitness/mindset/positivity/wellness memes to help curb my thought patterns.

I’m 27 and I’ve already worked this out… when I worked this out – my life started to change for the better…
When I had my accident – my mate in Townsville burnt his Bundy Rum candle for me… Rum Pigs are strong bro 😉
Louise & the team @ Tweak… get ready! This will be me!

Over the years I have found different videos on YouTube that also help to keep me in a positive mindset.

When I feel the need to just chill, I switch on Netflix and put on a documentary so I’m learning something – at the moment my favourites are ‘Strong’, ‘Born strong’, ‘The C word’, ‘Functional fitness’ and ‘The mind explained.’

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However, the days I go to the gym twice I will do 45 minutes on the treadmill watching sex in the city, I don’t know why but it gets me so motivated and when I get home I’m usually bursting with creativity to conqure one of my million projects on the go.

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Remember that above everything your mental well-being needs to be nurtured. Take time to meditate and focus on the things you are grateful for. Taking time to replenish your mind and spirit is paramount to sustaining mental health and giving you a sense of well-being. And that is key to becoming and maintaining your best self, now and over the long haul.

Aquo Xx

Keeping focused over the festive season…

It’s no secret that girls have to work a million times harder than guys to feel good in ourselves. I’m having to go to my happy place (Tweak Fitness) multiple times a day just to stay awake with my very active little dudes. It helps keep me sane, a little crazy… but mostly sane.

Guys go once, they don’t need to have a diet that is half as strict as us females have to and look like they do and it sucks! Since I started liking boys, I have had a thing for Vin Diesel!

They say it’s the 70/30 rule… 70% diet & 30% exercise…. I like to sit at 80% diet and 40% exercise… Just to be safe! I refuse to get as big as I was (size 20), even though I had good reason for being that large.

If you shop smart, eating healthy isn’t expensive! You can buy chicken from the deli in bulk when it’s $8/kg. You can stock up on frozen veggies so there is 0 waste & just cook up as you need or meal prep to stay on the ball. Fruit – well we all know somebody with a fruit tree/s that you can throw a few bucks at and get quality fruit that doesn’t waste half as quickly as store bought fruit. Snacks – I have 10 almonds and a coffee, or a piece of fruit. A shop remembering I have a family costs about $150 a week.

I try to stay away from dairy and carbs as much as I can – I have found a balance that works for me. I also try eat smaller portions more often – which I manage to do 3 out of 7 days at the moment cause let’s face it – life with a baby and a toddler is hectic af!

I did a thing that will blow the tops off most people’s heads – I gave up alcohol at the end of September and I feel so much better for it! I’m not sure if I’m never going to drink again… I just know I can’t be my version of successful and get tanked all the time.

I’m doing this for me, I’m becoming a fully functioning mum (yeah – I can hold both my boys at once with 1 & 1/2 functioning arms… what’s your superpower?) and I want to teach my kids that the best kind of lifestyle is an active one.

When I feel myself falling, I lift myself back up by looking at pictures of when I was unhappy and reading different fitness motivation memes and they remind me I’m about a year away from where I want to be!

ANDDD I could do this all day, but I will finish with a motivational video that helps keep me focused. REMEMBER – IF YOUR NOT GOING HEAD FIRST, EVERYTHING IN MODERATION!

Aquo Xx

Merry Christmas…

It has just come to my attention that Christmas will be here in 12 more sleeps… only 12! OMG!

And so I’m laying here reflecting on the year because although this past crushing season was quite ominous – to say the least, I have so much in my life that I’m greatful for…

1 – MY BOYS! Even though Jack’s in the two year old stage… you know – the one where the little turds don’t hear a thing you say… but at night when I tuck him in (mummy do it), I get a “mummy, prayer” – we say the guardian angel prayer. Then I get a “mummy, stay…” “mummy has to put Harry to bed.” “No daddy do it!” – melts my heart!

2 – FAMILY! My family means the world to me!

3 – HEALTH & WELLNESS! – I am so consumed by my health & wellness at the moment, and you know what? – it’s the best thing for my mental health. If you see me at Tweak on the floor dieing – I’m ok, I just push that hard cause my goal is to look like this!

4 – THE SUPPORT FROM THE HINCHINBROOK SHIRE! – I love the support I still receive throughout our beautiful district! Everytime I go grocery shopping, there is a group of these lovely men that meet for coffee at Alfresco Cafe that insist on helping me load the car. A massive Thank you to those amazing blokes!

You have helped me tackle my BULLSHIT ANXIETY of going out in public alone with my boys. I can do it – myself! 😉

To all the positive influences in my life that keep me going – much love! 😚

My amazing mentors in all aspects of my life – Thank You for everything! Xx

5 – THE SETBACKS THAT HAVE MADE ME STRONGER!

I have had many set backs so far in my life and I bet many people have. However, I believe that those set backs in my life have only make me stronger. They have made me mentally, physically, and emotionally stronger. Some people may look at the obstacles they face in life as negative things but when I see them, I see opportunities for growth.

I choose to take the obstacles that come my way with open mind to how the outcome will improve me. I choose to look at the glass half-full rather than half empty. Plenty of times during my 27 years of life, I have had experiences that have made me want to give up but I always found the courage to overcome the difficulties and to rely on the positive outlook of the situation I faced.

I’ve learnt – to accept the things I can’t control and focusing on what I can.

Learning to free myself from the aftermath of years of domestic abuse – from previous partners. It has taken years – I think it got worse after my accident…

This link will take you to a blog from the Forbes website – 8 ways to have more gratitude everyday. 🤗

Merry Christmas to you all! Stay safe, sink many a beers, and live life to the fullest! – GO HARD… OR WHAT ARE YOU EVEN DOING HERE?

Aquo Xx

Winston Churchill’s 12 word definition of success…

“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

I have always felt that I have never actually seen anything through in my life – until I had my accident. When Andrew and I first got together, I started a certificate three in Business just to see if I could actually do it. I remember being out at the farm in the office with my mother-in-law stressed out and feeling like I was going to throw in the towel! when she sat me down and repeated the speel I made about never feeling like I have accomplished anything fully, it put my head back in the game. I went from feeling as if I would give up and be done with the course to finishing the rest of the course much quicker than I had to.

To say I have never seen anything through is an untrue statement. To me, the things I am proud of accomplishing are things you have to work hard for – have to work really hard for, I’m talking blood, sweat and many, many tears!

My thing at the moment is wanting to look like this –

And I’m not talking hot AF… no sirey!

I’m talking STRONG! The definition of strong according to dictionary.com is – having, showing, or able to exert great bodily or muscular power; physically vigorous or robust.

I would eventually love to start boxing. There’s just something about boxing that keeps me focused… maybe because it refocuses the angry bird in me haha. I did think of body building but I spoke to a few ladies who advised against it as it messes with your mindset. With a brain injury I will never be able to deal with all the mental pressures that come with it, and I’ve accepted that – now moving on.

I believe I’m quite a resilient person, and this shire (the Hinchinbrook Shire) needs more people like that. I love this place – but there is so much NEGATIVITY! and that needs to change. People need to start making time for their friends and family, when you have a spare hour (like seriously where???!!!) somewhere in your fortnight or month, take a walk on the beach, in silence, to process your thoughts and regather yourself. It was hard for me at 1st to go for a walk in silence, but now I love nothing more then the sand between my toes, the wind blowing through my hair and becoming in touch with the world around me.

According to the experts, it takes about 21 days to break or form a habit pattern of medium complexity. Habits which are more complex or difficult to incorporate with your lifestyle may take longer.

So you’re all probably wandering where I am going with all of this, but I have been trying to live my life as positively as I can as of late – I couldn’t even tell you how long it has been for. However, I know in my heart, that this is how I want to live the rest of my life. I am trying my hardest to live my best life so that I will be here for as long as I can be for my boys. That to me is success.

Aquo Xx

Shredded AF…

Around the start of the sugar cane crushing season I started training. I don’t want to be this nice piece of ass (for a lack of a better phrase). I want to be strong! I want to get shredded and create a piece of art.

It’s incredible what you can achieve with your body if you put your mind to it. Before my accident I didn’t take much notice, half the time I couldn’t keep track of my period – but now I have educated myself through the internet and reading and have started living consciously… with everything.

The other day I wore bikinis for the first time since I was 17! And you know what – my body looks better than what it did at 17! I am so incredibly proud of myself – This hasn’t been a year long adventure for me, it has taken five years. FIVE YEARS – People usually get to ten months and give up. What can I say – The only reason I’m still here is because I have a bloody HARD head!

It is the best feeling deep down FINALLY being happy in my own skin.

Today I am not in a very good head space, and that reflected in my workout. Louise (my trainer) pushes me hard, but I want to be pushed hard. At the moment, I am trying to be the most positive person that I can be but that is all slipping away very fast with everything that’s going on. Working out is the only thing, I feel, that keeps my mind from going back to dark places. BUT – that will be a forever journey for me living with a brain injury. Thankfully, we are about four weeks away from the end of the sugar cane crushing season -alleluia! This season was hard, for everybody, it’s definitely not like it was 10 or 20 years ago – the sugar is just not there, lack of diversification etc.

Today was one of those days where we finish all of our sets, but I didn’t want to stop, I had so much built up anger that I could have pumped out another three hours – I didn’t want it to end. Louise is helping me create a machine – and you know why I want to do this, I will prove all those chaps wrong, the people that say “there’s no way she can’t do it!” I told Louise, that I will be her little guinea pig and we are going to create something awesome! This is the only thing, that I feel, is for me at the moment, the only thing that keeps me from going bat shit crazy.

Since having my accident, I have proven everyone wrong, with everything and it makes me feel powerful – NOT invincible. The reason I push so hard is because there is always somebody worse off! Check out this video of Andy, this bloke is incredible!

Here are some other articles I have written in the past about this topic:-

Body image – the female perspective

How I rebuilt myself – Aquo 2.0

I’ll keep you all posted – you DEFINITELY haven’t heard thee last from me regarding this topic.

Until next time…

Aquo Xx