You’ve got what it takes, but it will take everything you’ve got.

I have been running ‘Aquo’ for a few years now. When I started, I had no idea about how any of this techy stuff worked – Now I’m a queen at it! I started writing about a heap of different ideas to help you live a much more organized & fulfilling life. The idea behind this blog is to be very, very real. My aim was and always will be to help others that are going through/have gone through similar obstacles that I have faced/are facing.

My name is Amy Irvin (Haha it’s so weird saying that!) I was Amy Aquilini or as many people know me – Aquo. In 2013, I had a horrific quad bike accident that left me with a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), In 2017 I bought my first home (Since I was a kid I have always said I would own my own home by the time I was 25, and I made it, just…) and had a beautiful baby boy named Jack in June that year, then in 2018 I married my partner Andrew and we fell pregnant again towards the end of August 2018.

Fast forward to the end of March 2020, the world is rife with COVID-19, the world should just go into lock-down already! THE SOONER WE GET IT OVER AND DONE WITH THE SOONER IT WILL BE OVER! Wake me up when it’s all over! But seriously – everyone be smart about their daily practices please!

I think in many ways, I’m living proof never to give up hope with anything that’s thrown at you in life. Never stop trying to better yourself – you will be surprised how changing the things that are thrown at you in life from a negative to a positive, will improve your overall quality of life.

Flush out the toxic people in your life, even if they are family – trust me, they are bloody everywhere! By doing this you will feel a massive weight being lifted from you. You will be able to live a much more fulfilling life.

Get up, put a smile on your face (regardless of what your going through), deal with your shit and make the most of it!

Aquo Xx

COVID-19 Pandemic…

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This morning I received an email from Dean Graziosi & Tony Robbins, one of those automated emails that I usually delete unless the subject line catches my attention. This one caught my attention for some reason, It read ‘My advice as coronavirus spreads’ – so I opened it and read it through not knowing how much it would change the way I perceived the virus.

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Dean Graziosi & Tony Robbins

The first question that caught my eye was ‘So how do we find the strength and the certainty to feel okay and focus on solutions?’ and as I picked away at this email, I started to become more positive about the entire situation. Yes – this whole situation will hit the world hard, more people will die, people will end up in hospital, but if we each individually do our part and take sensible precautions, we would end up better off wouldn’t we? Let’s all educate ourselves so that we know what precautions need to be taken to give ourselves and everyone around us a better chance of fighting Coronavirus.

I really would like to know what you think of this pandemic – so please, please comment, post, share, like, I want to hear from you.

I feel, in a time like this we need to all come together and support each other, support small businesses, do everything we can to not only look after ourselves, but those around us. This morning when I woke up my mind instantly started racing thinking about how much this virus is going to hurt our small town, how many small businesses are going to shut down. It’s scary to say the least but I have faith in knowing everything will be OK, I don’t know how, it just will. The big man upstairs (God) has helped me out before and I believe he will help us get through this pandemic.

I pray for my family, my friends, those who turned against me and the world.

Lord, it saddens me that many people don’t understand the power of prayer and even mock me for taking my worries to you in prayer. So I pray first for those who do not believe in you. Where is their hope?

I’ll admit that sometimes you seem silent when I so desperately want to hear from you. It’s torture waiting on you, and yet I will wait because I know my prayers are not in vain. I don’t know if the latest crisis will affect my family or me, but you are omniscient Lord, so I pray that you will spare us.

But if fallout touches any of my loved ones, please comfort them with your healing balm. Sometimes our own choices can put us at risk. So Lord, I pray that we would all be judicious in our actions and interactions.

I can remain in perfect peace because I put my future in your capable hands. Amen.

I believe that in a time like this, where chaos is prevalent, we need role models who will set an example of resilience and wisdom for others, all around the world. Someone to guide you, to help you keep your inner strength, stay positive and continue living your best life. I’m trying my hardest to grow in such a way that I can be one of those role models. I have found my purpose in life – to help others.

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So please, if you need to reach out – REACH OUT! There’s no malice here, I’m here to offer support in this time where the world resembles somewhat of a zombie apocalypse…

Aquo Xx

The Mindset Mentor…

Until I started writing about The Mindset Mentor, I had only ever listened to the podcast – a bloody good podcast but I was ready for more and up until this point I love everything Rob Dial has to say, I have NEVER disagreed with ANYTHING he has came out with.

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I believe not every mentor, life coach, guru or the like, works for everyone… I believe you are drawn to the energy, but mostly the back story of the person you will loose sleep over and become somewhat obsessed with – I’m not talking fatal attraction shit but haha.

This is Rob’s story – “I was raised by an amazing mother and a father who struggled with alcohol addiction. As a child I struggled a lot with my own self worth, and limiting beliefs. My passion for speaking came at a young age.

When I was 15 my father passed away from his long time battle. I remember thinking that I never wanted someone to have to go through what I had to go through. So I went to a could of Alcoholics Anonymous meetings and asked if I could speak at the meetings. I wanted the people in that room to understand how their alcoholism affects not only them, but their loved ones as well. To my surprise, I was rejected as a speaker from all of them because they only allow those battling with the addition in the meetings.

I then turned my focus elsewhere. If I couldn’t help the people who in the meetings, how can help others battling their own problems? Whether that is addiction to food, work, negative self-talk, or toxic relationships.”

This awakening that has recently occurred in me has seriously changed my life! I no longer let my past control the way I think or feel about myself. To all those people who are no longer by my side – I wish you well in your life, but now you’re just somebody that I used to know.

It’s all about self-evaluation, When you wake up in the morning what is the first feeling you feel? Is it something like – “Oh i’m too fat; today’s going to suck etc. etc. etc.” I used to be like that, but changing the way I thought, one thought at a time has gotten me to the point of being able to stop myself from thinking negatively about a situation. Not every time – BUT I’m getting better at it.

Rob is obsessed with personal growth – hey me too! I’m all about riding the positivity train – and those who know me will be like “yeah, right!” But I really am all about that now and I’m becoming a faster, stronger, better person because of it! I’m noticing daily changes with my whole mindset, It’s insane!

All in all, I’m never going back to be the person I used to be – EVER! If I could give you one piece of advice it would be this – “Get yourself some kick-ass mentors! But not just one, try one for every part of your life that’s important to you.

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Aquo Xx

Toddlers – like a blender you have no lid for…

Today is the start of a new decade – 1st January 2020. I woke up this morning more drained than usual – I have gotten into the routine to get up by 5am and going to the gym for an hour. This morning I thought I would start off doing the right thing (omg shocking right?!) my body needs a break so I rolled over and slept in till 7.23am. I then got up to a rather loud house – “Andrew I need coffee.” I am so not a morning person but can surprisingly get my ass out of bed at 5am and get to the gym by 6am, go figure.

My two year old made me put Blippi songs on, which I’m cool with because it’s all life skills he’s learning. He turns to me when the ‘months of the year’ song comes on and started singing it. I told him that his birthday is in June he looked at me and said “Yeah, I’ll be five.” – Ah nah bud, three… It went back and forth till he lost interest and it got me thinking…

Don’t wish you were older – ever! I was the youngest of all my cousins and always wanted to be older… I ended up doing questionable things to try make myself feel older, I don’t regret anything I have done in my life cause it made me who I am today. One of my friends once told me “All you can do is try be the best mum you can be.” I am so grateful for that statement, it has made me stop and think before creating some monstrous shitstorms!

Recently, I’ve really started to find the person god put me on this earth to be – and you know what? – I love the shit out of her! She’s a pretty amazing human being. A better mother, a better friend, a better daughter, a better wife, you name it. I’m actively trying to be the change I wish to see in the world and I have started to see it happening all around me. It’s pretty wonderful actually.

Don’t wish you were older… EVER!!! Just let it happen, find your WHY in life and try your best to be the most confident, kindest version of yourself you can possibly be.

Aquo Xx

Positive & Negative – with a brain injury…

So – so today my depression has me writing this piece in bed. I just had a shower – my first shower in 32 hours. My family are meeting at Rollingstone, and there’s no way I can bring myself to face anyone. I was born into the Sugar Industry in the Herbert and have been Sugar Cane mad ever since, but this year the season has broken me. This season has made me despise the Sugar Industry – amongst other things… and it makes me hate myself because of it. I feel so alone…

My husband has been home 9 out of the last 72 hours and I could cut the tension between us with a knife. The sugar cane season in the Herbert is set to finish over the following weekend and I’m telling you it’s a week too long. I’m all for making a living and working hard but I feel so neglected it’s not funny!

Today (the following day) I went training at Tweak with Louise (my trainer) and she can always put me in a better mindset. Georgia Satellites -Keep your hands to yourself was the first song that came on and it put my head in the game – I worked harder than most times I work out. The angry bird in me wants to come back BUT I wont let it.

This season has taken my head to some pretty messed up places – It got me thinking – There is no way I am the only wife in the industry that this has happened to. It sucks because I FEEL SO FREAKING LOST! I feel – I’m all alone… there’s no one here besides meee…

Yes – my sense of humor is pretty messed up, to the point where my father-in-law dropped in the other day and I said “Your lucky there’s no knives flying your direction!” He kinda gets my sense of humor – more than my husband most times.

Give me a month and I’ll be back on top of the game (of life) again. This is how it’s going to be for the rest of my life, It’s not I had… It’s I have a brain injury and I’m going to have to accept that. My best mate said years ago – “I admire your resilience, the way you bounce back.” Because I ALWAYS DO! BUT – I push myself. I am so hard on myself, I say things like “stop being a little bitch and get your head back in the game!”

This season has me thinking – maybe I’m not cut out for this, and that makes the way I’m feeling 100 times worse – Cause I’m dad’s little operator (well, not anymore) but that’s what my life would of been had I not had my accident. I think there needs to be support for the wives in the industry. Nothing to do with Canegrowers or QSL but maybe Wilmar? I still have to figure it out but I’ll have a chat with some of my contacts and see what we can come up with!

This is not – oh I want to kill myself, It’s actually far from it, and yeah – at times I’m selfish… but I would never do that to my boys if no one else. Shits bad NOW but I think I just need time away BY MYSELF – to get inside my head and reset… on a nice beach… away from this town for a night even… to see how good I really have it!

Stop being a little bitch…

Aquo Xx

Where’s the positivity at?

Where’s the positivity at?

Morning all you beautiful people! Just a quick thought – My boys and I watched Sunrise this morning (what! Your saying daddy was actually home? 🤔🙄😂) and Sam Mac was wearing a banana suit trying to boost the ‘positive vibes’ in Melbourne – well, I think that’s where he was… it was hard to hear the tv with my two and a half year old screaming TRACTORRRR! It got me thinking – It’s not just Melbourne where positive vibes need promoting… IT’S THE WHOLE WORLD!

The way we perceive ourselves and the world around us has an enormous impact on our experiences. Yes – It is so much easier to sit there and be negative, trust me I know… I’ve had to try very bloody hard to bring myself back from some pretty dark places. That’s not big noting myself or anything, that’s the honest truth.

Positive energy doesn’t just help us better enjoy our day to day experiences, it also impacts our health and relationships. Look around the place (Ingham and surrounds) – so many people are ‘throwing in the towel’ when it comes to their relationships.

I’m not saying I have a ‘perfect relationship,’ our marriage is far from perfect – especially towards the end of the sugar cane harvesting season. HOWEVER we talk – we talk about everything. I’m not just talking marriages, it’s friendships etc that are falling apart.

I go through my little ‘hate session’ for a few weeks, but having had a brain injury I have educated myself on mental health since moving home at the end of 2014. It’s much easier being able to recognize what’s going on inside my head and being able to redirect my thinking to be more positive – it makes life so much easier!

Positive thinking helps reduce our stress, improve our physical health, and drive us toward our goals and accomplishments. Positivity seems to come naturally for some, while others have to work for it. A saying dad taught me young was ‘shit happens’. And – that’s just it – shit does happen! It’s all about how you respond that matters. If you choose to be victimized by what happens, your negative energy will gain momentum. 

I am currently mentoring a person in Melbourne suffering from poor mental health and I feel it’s helping me uphold a healthy mental health outlook. Trying to help someone else is a way to see the world with a more positive outlook.

Another method I have used to help me be a more positive person when I start thinking negative thoughts is interrupting myself, with a BUT – The weather is shitty today BUT the cane really needs it.

Every single person reading this piece should take the time to watch this video…

COME ON ALL OF YOU BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE! I DARE YOU TO TRY PUTTING A POSITIVE SPIN ON EVERYTHING FOR A WEEK! – then make up your mind on weather you feel lighter in yourself or not. Let me know how you go! COMMENT… SHARE… LIKE! I want to hear from you!

Aquo Xx

Winston Churchill’s 12 word definition of success…

“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

I have always felt that I have never actually seen anything through in my life – until I had my accident. When Andrew and I first got together, I started a certificate three in Business just to see if I could actually do it. I remember being out at the farm in the office with my mother-in-law stressed out and feeling like I was going to throw in the towel! when she sat me down and repeated the speel I made about never feeling like I have accomplished anything fully, it put my head back in the game. I went from feeling as if I would give up and be done with the course to finishing the rest of the course much quicker than I had to.

To say I have never seen anything through is an untrue statement. To me, the things I am proud of accomplishing are things you have to work hard for – have to work really hard for, I’m talking blood, sweat and many, many tears!

My thing at the moment is wanting to look like this –

And I’m not talking hot AF… no sirey!

I’m talking STRONG! The definition of strong according to dictionary.com is – having, showing, or able to exert great bodily or muscular power; physically vigorous or robust.

I would eventually love to start boxing. There’s just something about boxing that keeps me focused… maybe because it refocuses the angry bird in me haha. I did think of body building but I spoke to a few ladies who advised against it as it messes with your mindset. With a brain injury I will never be able to deal with all the mental pressures that come with it, and I’ve accepted that – now moving on.

I believe I’m quite a resilient person, and this shire (the Hinchinbrook Shire) needs more people like that. I love this place – but there is so much NEGATIVITY! and that needs to change. People need to start making time for their friends and family, when you have a spare hour (like seriously where???!!!) somewhere in your fortnight or month, take a walk on the beach, in silence, to process your thoughts and regather yourself. It was hard for me at 1st to go for a walk in silence, but now I love nothing more then the sand between my toes, the wind blowing through my hair and becoming in touch with the world around me.

According to the experts, it takes about 21 days to break or form a habit pattern of medium complexity. Habits which are more complex or difficult to incorporate with your lifestyle may take longer.

So you’re all probably wandering where I am going with all of this, but I have been trying to live my life as positively as I can as of late – I couldn’t even tell you how long it has been for. However, I know in my heart, that this is how I want to live the rest of my life. I am trying my hardest to live my best life so that I will be here for as long as I can be for my boys. That to me is success.

Aquo Xx