What was the moment in your life where you felt most motivated?
What are you holding onto that’s holding you back?
People say life is short. Why do you do so many things you don’t like, and like so many things you don’t do?
What was the moment where you felt most grateful?
What job would you do if you weren’t paid?
OK… well… maybe a few more than a few… but this is my why… – I want to help you. Look at how much I have been ‘helped’ in some way, shape or form in the last seven years?! Like omg! I strive to do EVERYTHING in my power to make this world a better place.
I would appreciate your support at my launch event tonight at 7pm QLD time! I have formulated a pretty kickass plan for creating a residual income whilst being a stay at home mum with a disability.
If your free, I would love your support, I am so passionate about this venture that I wanted to share with you what exactly I am doing
It’s all online, it will be brief about 20 minutes, you can tune in from home on your phone or laptop.
We only have minimal spots open for guests so I would truly love to have you be a part of this.
If you ARE interested – please comment on this post. All you will have to do is log into Zoom, which takes like 20 seconds and click on the link I share in the comments later today!
I am so, so blessed that my life has turned out the way it has… perspective is everything!
I really didn’t want anybody to know about this… not my husband… not ANYONE! I just wanted to sweep it under the carpet and pretend it never happened – you know… like a little b^%ch… but then I look up at my inspiration wall and read “Don’t be a little bi^%h” – Aquo… that’s right I said it. Guess it’s time I owned my own baggage…
I have always kind of been ashamed to use my disability card because I know I have bought myself back to be an abled body again – not completely at the moment – that will take time yet. I mean it’s been six years since my accident and I have just started to be able to move my hand from side to side (supernation & pronation) and I’m getting a bit of flexion at the elbow – It’s almost time to start working on my right hook again. Yeah – that’s not going to happen… I’m a lover not a fighter these days… The world needs more lovers than fighters now more than ever, there is so much evil out there.
I think I have just turned into an adult… a real adult! See – I wasn’t an adult before my accident, I was far from it! Then when I had the accident I spent years behaving as if I was a 12 year old child all over again – not by choice I might add. That’s what happens with traumatic brain injuries, they really are a silent disability that not many people can understand. I’m lucky I have some awesome neighbors who I feel I can talk to but I still feel like nobody understands me.
I think it’s pretty a incredible comeback I have had to this point… and I’m not done yet! I have this incredible drive and energy going on that has helped me level out a lot! It has helped me overcome some demons that I’ve seen take down some of the strongest people. The mind has a lot to answer for – no two people see the exact same thing… in any situation… ever!
I’VE LEARN’T HOW TO BETTER DEAL WITH MY EMOTIONS!
This brings me back to sugar cane farming – I can honestly tell you from personal experiences that the reason there are so many marriage breakdowns, cheating scandals and the like, in this district, and probably every other sugar cane farming districts, is because no two people see the same thing… no matter how united they are.
This is because of decisions made back in the 90’s are still affecting some farms out there now – and let me tell you, it sucks – it sucks on a different level. This is what nobody understands, it’s always oh the poor farmers, the poor farmers and then the other party is labeled the homewrecker… How about the other party? why should farming mean they are supposed to be unhappy?
YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR OWN HAPPINESS!
It has always been my life’s plan to end up being a farmers wife, but let me tell you – that label comes at a high price – your mental health! Kudos to all the old birds that are out there who stuck through the really really really hard times and came out the other side swinging! I think why this is affecting me so much is because it has become a massive, massive distraction from my boys and my startup – Building an empire is full on, but I know I have it in me, I have the drive to get what needs to be done, done and set up an add on to our empire.
NOTHING WILL CHANGE UNLESS YOU MAKE IT HAPPEN!
What’s even cooler is how my personal development over the last few months has helped me grow in so many ways, and understand how to manage my life better to achieve more in the 24 hours god gives us everyday! It has helped me focus on what really matters (my family) and has proven to me that “adulting is harddddd!” – but it’s all good! I am now so so strong, how do I know this – become a farmers wife and you will see!
UNIVERSE, YOU CAN TRY TO KNOCK ME DOWN, AS MUCH AS YOU WANT… BUT I WILL CONTINUE TO GET UP STRONGER AND STRONGER EVERYTIME!
It has just come to my attention that Christmas will be here in 12 more sleeps… only 12! OMG!
And so I’m laying here reflecting on the year because although this past crushing season was quite ominous – to say the least, I have so much in my life that I’m greatful for…
1 – MY BOYS! Even though Jack’s in the two year old stage… you know – the one where the little turds don’t hear a thing you say… but at night when I tuck him in (mummy do it), I get a “mummy, prayer” – we say the guardian angel prayer. Then I get a “mummy, stay…” “mummy has to put Harry to bed.” “No daddy do it!” – melts my heart!
2 – FAMILY! My family means the world to me!
3 – HEALTH & WELLNESS! – I am so consumed by my health & wellness at the moment, and you know what? – it’s the best thing for my mental health. If you see me at Tweak on the floor dieing – I’m ok, I just push that hard cause my goal is to look like this!
4 – THE SUPPORT FROM THE HINCHINBROOK SHIRE! – I love the support I still receive throughout our beautiful district! Everytime I go grocery shopping, there is a group of these lovely men that meet for coffee at Alfresco Cafe that insist on helping me load the car. A massive Thank you to those amazing blokes!
You have helped me tackle my BULLSHIT ANXIETY of going out in public alone with my boys. I can do it – myself! 😉
To all the positive influences in my life that keep me going – much love! 😚
My amazing mentors in all aspects of my life – Thank You for everything! Xx
5 – THE SETBACKS THAT HAVE MADE ME STRONGER!
I have had many set backs so far in my life and I bet many people have. However, I believe that those set backs in my life have only make me stronger. They have made me mentally, physically, and emotionally stronger. Some people may look at the obstacles they face in life as negative things but when I see them, I see opportunities for growth.
I choose to take the obstacles that come my way with open mind to how the outcome will improve me. I choose to look at the glass half-full rather than half empty. Plenty of times during my 27 years of life, I have had experiences that have made me want to give up but I always found the courage to overcome the difficulties and to rely on the positive outlook of the situation I faced.
I’ve learnt – to accept the things I can’t control and focusing on what I can.
Learning to free myself from the aftermath of years of domestic abuse – from previous partners. It has taken years – I think it got worse after my accident…
This link will take you to a blog from the Forbes website – 8 ways to have more gratitude everyday. 🤗
Merry Christmas to you all! Stay safe, sink many a beers, and live life to the fullest! – GO HARD… OR WHAT ARE YOU EVEN DOING HERE?
Morning all you beautiful people! Just a quick thought – My boys and I watched Sunrise this morning (what! Your saying daddy was actually home? 🤔🙄😂) and Sam Mac was wearing a banana suit trying to boost the ‘positive vibes’ in Melbourne – well, I think that’s where he was… it was hard to hear the tv with my two and a half year old screaming TRACTORRRR! It got me thinking – It’s not just Melbourne where positive vibes need promoting… IT’S THE WHOLE WORLD!
The way we perceive ourselves and the world around us has an enormous impact on our experiences. Yes – It is so much easier to sit there and be negative, trust me I know… I’ve had to try very bloody hard to bring myself back from some pretty dark places. That’s not big noting myself or anything, that’s the honest truth.
Positive energy doesn’t just help us better enjoy our day to day experiences, it also impacts our health and relationships. Look around the place (Ingham and surrounds) – so many people are ‘throwing in the towel’ when it comes to their relationships.
I’m not saying I have a ‘perfect relationship,’ our marriage is far from perfect – especially towards the end of the sugar cane harvesting season. HOWEVER we talk – we talk about everything. I’m not just talking marriages, it’s friendships etc that are falling apart.
I go through my little ‘hate session’ for a few weeks, but having had a brain injury I have educated myself on mental health since moving home at the end of 2014. It’s much easier being able to recognize what’s going on inside my head and being able to redirect my thinking to be more positive – it makes life so much easier!
Positive thinking helps reduce our stress, improve our physical health, and drive us toward our goals and accomplishments. Positivity seems to come naturally for some, while others have to work for it. A saying dad taught me young was ‘shit happens’. And – that’s just it – shit does happen! It’s all about how you respond that matters. If you choose to be victimized by what happens, your negative energy will gain momentum.
I am currently mentoring a person in Melbourne suffering from poor mental health and I feel it’s helping me uphold a healthy mental health outlook. Trying to help someone else is a way to see the world with a more positive outlook.
Another method I have used to help me be a more positive person when I start thinking negative thoughts is interrupting myself, with a BUT – The weather is shitty today BUT the cane really needs it.
COME ON ALL OF YOU BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE! I DARE YOU TO TRY PUTTING A POSITIVE SPIN ON EVERYTHING FOR A WEEK! – then make up your mind on weather you feel lighter in yourself or not. Let me know how you go! COMMENT… SHARE… LIKE! I want to hear from you!
“Oh no! she said the ‘M’ word.” The crowd gasps as she sits back and researches the plant as a whole – not just reaping it’s benefits.
Something quite amazing to us North Queenslanders is how over in California – over in ‘the states’ they have restaurants where the key ingredient is marijuana. There are people walking down the street smoking a joint, and it’s completely normal! What about how there are less people addicted to prescription painkillers because they smoke weed. Let’s use a different word to ‘people’, say ‘patients’ would the government see it differently then?
It is estimated that 20% of adult Australians suffer from some form of chronic pain. Why is it that the Australian Government, or any Government for that matter, can dictate what you do to your ‘own’ body after you turn 18 years of age? And i’m not talking about those other heavy drugs that have absolutely no medicinal properties what so ever. I’m talking about marijuana, the plant that holds 8+ medicinal properties and so many health benefits!
It shouldn’t be up to any other person regardless of their rank or training what you ingest or inhale. As kids were taught “your body, your rules.” but, is that really the case?
Last year, a large review from the National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine assessed more than 10,000 scientific studies on the medical benefits and adverse effects of marijuana. One area that the report looked closely at was the use of medical marijuana to treat chronic pain.
Marijuana, or products containing cannabinoids — which are the active ingredients in marijuana, or other compounds that act on the same receptors in the brain as marijuana — are effective at relieving chronic pain.
In 2016, 85% of Australians favoured the use of cannabis for medicinal purposes, rising from 69% in 2013. Which brings me to the question – why are pharmaceutical companies being able to bribe Australian Politicians? Prescription pain killers are becoming an increased cause of death by overdose. Whether people take prescription pain killers for recreation or because the pills have been prescribed to them – PEOPLE ARE DYING HERE!!!
People say the Government is making too much money off marijuana so they won’t legalise it, yesterday I was reading a blog piece from the Cannabis Executive on how California has the biggest legal marijuana market in the world, despite the black market. It got me thinking about our laws here in Queensland, but also in Australia as a whole. This is what I found:-
My views as a whole are pretty simple… don’t just legalise ‘medical marijuana’ because recreationally, there will still be abuse because as a whole, it’s still illegal. Legalise marijuana and build super dispensaries like they have in different states in ‘the states’. I found out they also have dispensaries with drive thru’s now! A major issue with marijuana is there isn’t enough education on the plant. The views in Australia also need to change, marijuana needs to stop being seen as a harmful illegal drug and it needs to start being seen as a plant with different medicinal properties.
That is not to say there shouldn’t be any criminalization surrounding the plant what so ever. Teenage/childhood marijuana use can affect learning ability, attention, memory, coordination, balance, judgment, and decision-making. While it may not be as problematic for adult use as once believed, there are still plenty of good reasons to discourage weed smoking in teenagers (other than the fact that in most states, it’s still illegal).
Speaking with a person currently in that industry recently, we got to talking about how there needs to be a scale similar to that of measuring alcohol consumption (breathalyzer) for measuring THC consumption. I know they have the swabbing technique in affect but that only tells you weather the person tested has THC in their system, not the level of THC in their system. Simple – Make it 0.05 as well. I’m sure somebody can invent something that measures THC if there isn’t something already out there…
I believe the world would benefit so much from microdosing with cannabis!
Practitioners of microdosing are taking small amounts of cannabis in order to reap the medical benefits of THC while avoiding its psychoactive effects that can interfere with the demands of daily life.“Microdosing is something that is very personal. There is no magic bullet for all patients; it is different for each one.”Michelle Ross, Founder of IMPACT Network
“Most people don’t know about microdosing,” says Michelle Ross, founder of IMPACT network, a nonprofit organization that uses empirical medical research to find new cannabis-related treatments for patients. “They just blast their system with cannabis or high amounts of THC, and that is not always the best approach for whatever condition they have.”
While microdosing has typically been associated with hallucinogens like LSD, many experts now believe that the threshold for the medical benefits of THC is far lower than many people think.
I also believe EDUCATION is key! And this is what Australia is missing – studies of the science behind marijuana similar to that of the states, but Australia is much smaller than the states and reality is we are so far behind with our knowledge and views – that all needs to change.
There is one product I will not go without in my home – Himalayan Salt Lamps! People use salt crystal lamps for a number of different reasons; Their soothing, pink glow can stimulate deep relaxation. They make an attractive and organic-feeling addition to home décor, creating a more balanced and mindful space. For these purposes alone salt lamps make a welcome addition to almost any home.
Salt is hygroscopic, which is a scientific word meaning that salt attracts water molecules from the surrounding environment.
Water molecules float around in every room in your home. However, water molecules aren’t the only invisible substance hiding all around you. Alongside these water molecules are dust, pollen, mold, and other allergens. Even bacteria and viruses can hitch a ride on these water molecules.
Himalayan salt lamps are made from pink salt crystals mined from the edge of the Himalayan Mountains in Pakistan—the only place where you can acquire authentic Himalayan pink salt. However, the lamps themselves range in color from light pink to pink with an orange hue, depending on the mineral concentration. The pink Himalayan salt crystals are mined, then hollowed out and fitted with a bulb to provide both light and heat. Himalayan salt rock lamps also come in baskets of crystal salt blocks with a light underneath.
A large block of salt, like a pink Himalayan salt rock crystal, works by attracting the water molecules in your room. In so doing, it also pulls in all the pollutants and contaminants attached to these molecules. The salt rock lamp helps to detoxify your room by capturing and holding these particles so they aren’t left floating around for you to breathe in. Then, as the bulb heats the lamp, the water vapor is released back into the air, but the rock salt lamp retains the contaminants.
Along with the hygroscopic benefits, Himalayan natural salt lamps are also said to release negative ions into the surrounding environment. For those curious, negative ions are simply oxygen atoms with an extra electron.
These negative ions occur in nature via the effects of water, air, and sunlight. Have you ever gone for a hike through the mountains or near a waterfall only to feel rejuvenated? Negative ions are partly to thank for that wonderful feeling. Nature has the ability to heal, and proponents of Himalayan salt lamps argue these pink salt rocks can mimic, to an extent, the feeling you get from being outside.
All naturally occurring minerals contain trace amounts of heavy metals. These heavy metals, like lead, are found in the air, soil, and food. Only when lead concentrations reach high levels do they start to pose a threat to your health.
Because these metals can exist on salt particles, many worry salt lamps could pose a threat. While true that pink salt can contain these heavy metals, they do not contain enough to pose a health risk. Especially because they aren’t being ingested. So unless you plan on licking your Himalayan salt crystal lamp every day, you’ll be fine.
However, what does not pose a threat to humans can be harmful to your pets. Too much salt can be toxic to many kinds of animals, like cats and dogs, so it would be wise to keep Himalayan salt lamps out of the reach of any household pets who may want to sneak behind your back and have a taste when you aren’t looking.
In January of this year, Michael’s issued a recall on some of their salt lamps sold under the Lumière brand. Rest assured, the issue and recall had nothing to do with the Himalayan salt itself but reported hazards with the dimmer switch and plug. If you’re looking to purchase a lamp, talk to the retailer and make sure it has been assembled properly and that the piece you’re interested in was not included in the recall.
Lastly, be sure to purchase authentic Himalayan salt crystal lamps so you can get the full health benefits, but also avoid health concerns with artificial and counterfeit devices.
As mentioned earlier, there are many different types of salt lamps that range in color to style. Among the most common are lamps created by inserting a light source directly into a salt crystal or a basket of crystals with a light source underneath. In these cases, the differences are for the most part purely aesthetic, and your choice comes down to finding the right solution for your tastes and complementing the environment in your home.
That being said, one thing you will have to keep in mind is making sure you avoid purchasing a fake Himalayan salt crystal lamp. Most salt lamps emit a soft, warm glow. Be leery of lamps that give off too much light. Also, some crystal lamps are white. Himalayan white crystals do exist but are rare and expensive. So if you find a white crystal lamp and a low price, be cautious. Lastly, make sure the crystal was mined from Kewra, Pakistan, or elsewhere along the Himalayas—the only place where true Himalayan salt is found.
In Ingham, you can purchase these at either Vanessa’s Day Spa on 0400 741 267 or at Good Energy Massage & Health located beside Brumby’s on Herbert Street. Remember – shop locally! Your light bulbs may be sold by your retailer, or you can purchase them from Woolies or Coles etc. However – if you aren’t from here, any of the following websites have good reputations for the purchase of your salt lamps:
There are so many health benefits when it comes to salt lamps, I personally love the light it sets off – I’m bold enough to say the one in the bedroom sets the mood if you know what I mean! But they are truly relaxing, especially at night. We have a salt lamp in our bathroom which was the first one I brought into the house and I have noticed the mould that would grow on the ceiling above the shower recess has reduced significantly. I then put one in the baby’s room, our room & the spare room. After my net purchase I will be done – or so my husband thinks (insert evil laugh here).
Since becoming a mum in June 2017, I have tried my hardest to be fit, healthy and well because my son needs me. But in all reality, some days it’s just too bloody hard! But that’s just it! – Give yourself a day to feel like crap, eat chocolate but then the next morning when you wake up, go for a walk in your back yard, do a Pilates class (youtube is free, so there’s not really any excuse), or hook in and do an abt class at home. There are so many different things you can do at home regarding your fitness, and there are heaps you can do with the kids!
One thing I found with myself is that my head needed to be in a good place before I would even consider working out at home. I started following a heap of health & wellness blogs and over time, condensed my list to the ones I felt related to me the most. Below is a list of the ones I have stuck with through my journey:-
As a mum of three kids, a physiotherapist and fitness and health author, Rosemary Marchese completely lives and breathes the pressures faced by mums every day. But she also knows that busy mums can also be fit mums. We are busy and she doesn’t set out to change that.
On this website they consider‘busy’ to be positive – they say that by being busy we are ‘fully engaged’ in life. Instead, this website has been designed to empower and inspire you to get active and lead a healthy lifestyle that suits you, at whatever time period you are at in YOUR life.
Firstly Healthy Mummy is about healthy and REALISTIC weight loss and healthy living. It is not about trying to achieve a 6 pack – but about empowering mums to learn about healthy food, healthy living and doing it in a supportive environment.
Being a mum is HARD WORK and the team at Healthy Mummy totally GET IT! And this understanding and empathy shines through in the recipes, the exercises, the products and the amount of budget and family friendly products available. The two biggest products are the 28 Day Weight Loss Challenge and the Healthy Mummy Smoothies.
There are also LOTS of other products – over 52 books, supplements, singlets, active range, snack bars and lots more which cover Healthy Kids products and Healthy Pregnancy products. Plus they have over 130 Healthy Mummy Consultants who are working mums themselves. At Healthy Mummy, they are passionate about ensuring that The Healthy Mummy network offers 24/7 support in a safe, non judgemental and supportive environment.
The aim of the The Healthy Mummy focus is to educate mums how they can make small changes to their life to become healthier and also show them how they can change their life to a healthy one for them and their family
Honest mum was founded in 2010 and became a multi-award winning parenting and lifestyle blog, Honest Mum®, a space where Vicki Psarias shares her passions: family life, food, fashion, film, tech, business and travel.
As a former director, Vicki set up her blog while on maternity leave as way to help her rediscover her voice and regain confidence after suffering a traumatic birth. Blogging and vlogging soon became her full-time career taking her work from mostly behind the camera to firmly in front. You might have seen Vicki on ITV’s Good Morning Britain, BBC Breakfast, Lorraine, Channel 5 News or SKY News.
Heather Dessinger started Mommypotamus, she has three children that she birthed in water in her living room, she’s not a doctor or certified nutritionist. There are no special letters behind her name. She’s just a mom that’s passionate about nourishing her family in every way possible.
Heather wasn’t always this way, though. Her along with husband Daniel were junk food fiends when they got married. Part of every dinner came from a box or takeout, and they were fine with that. But years of eating MSG, genetically modified foods, and hormone “enhanced” meat took its toll. About two years after they said their vows – just when they were thinking about starting a family – Heather developed a debilitating autoimmune disorder.
Blood tests also revealed that years of low-fat dieting had lowered her cholesterol to nearly undetectable levels – lower than those long distance runners who don’t get periods. Cholesterol is necessary for producing the hormones that sustain a pregnancy, Heather was told. “Don’t get pregnant, you’re not strong enough to carry a baby to term” were her exact words. Fine, then. She went home and drank 8 oz of oil straight up. (Do not ever do this! You will puke for 10 hours.)
She wanted cholesterol. She wanted a baby. She wanted my horrible acne, acid reflux, anxiety and chronic exhaustion to just GO AWAY. She wanted all of those things and more, but what she really NEEDED was real food.
So, with Nourishing Traditions in hand, Heather hacked away at her old food habits until every single one was gone. No one else she knew was eating this way and she kind of felt like the unabomber while concocting ferments in her kitchen. Heather said “it was frustrating, but oh-so-worth-it.”
Through nutrition and laser therapy she recovered my health, got pregnant, carried her baby not only to term but to the very last day of the forty second week, nursed for two years, got pregnant AGAIN, continued to nurse through her pregnancy, had another baby at 41 weeks. Heather now had a three year old and a one year old and had been continually nursing for 46 months straight. That’s a far cry from not being able to carry a baby to term!
Of course, that was just the beginning of the journey! The best part has been figuring out how to nourish her vibrantly healthy, energetic children and writing about it on her blog.
It began as a single blog with a tongue-in-cheek play on a Queen song. Today, the Fit Bottomed World, run by Jennipher Walters and Kristen Seymour (who are certified fitness professionals but also just everyday regular women), is an online phenomenon reaching millions of women (and men!) each month. And, of course, the focus is always on the idea that fit bottoms come in all shapes and sizes — and that you’re more than the number on the scale.
True pioneers of the body-positive movement, Jennipher Walters and Erin Whitehead began Fit Bottomed Girls in 2008 as friends looking for a fun, fresh and no-diet approach to being healthy. Months after the site launched, it took off — readers were clearly hungry for something other than “how to lose 10 pounds in 10 minutes and get the perfect man.” Infusing their own experiences (both failures and successes) they created a community of “FBGs” — welcoming everyone in, including writer Kristen Seymour, who would later become a business partner.
Jenn and Erin also continue to work with major brands such as Brooks Running, Marshall’s and Pure Protein on campaigns and other influencer projects that are fully aligned with the Fit Bottomed Girls’ mission. In fact, Jenn and Kristen were named as one of The 100 Most Influential People in Health and Fitness by Greatist in 2016 and 2017, and were listed as one of the best healthy living bloggers of 2018 and 2019 by Healthline. And the one thing that will never, ever change is the company’s mission to continue to let women (and men!) know that you simply can’t hate yourself healthy.
Claire Eastham has been writing her blog, We’re All Mad Here, for five years in an attempt to help people realize that social anxiety is more common than many believe. The name of the blog was also used as the title for her book, published in 2016, that acts as a “no nonsense guide to living with social anxiety.”
Both her blog and book provide a thoroughly well-written and personal account of life with social anxiety and panic attacks, doing so with liberal smatterings of humor and wit.
The success of her blog has resulted not only in a best-selling book, but it has been a launchpad for Claire’s work as a public speaker and mental health advocate. Aside from her blog, Claire’s writing can be found across the web, while she has made plenty of appearances on TV and radio.
Claire Eastham founder of We’re all mad here blog
No, I’m not one of those mother’s that just sit on social media all day neglecting my kid, I will jump on during nap time, as of late it has been to grow my knowledge of blogging as well as still researching the above sites as they all have useful info that I can use to create the lifestyle I want for my family.
I hope other mummies out there struggling find some light with the list of blogs I follow, they have all helped me in one way or another, whether it be physically, mentally, spiritually, or just life in general. I used to portray myself as a hard ass so that people couldn’t see me struggling or think that ‘I’m weak’, but now I understand I’m not the only mother out there who has bad days.
I’m at the stage now (probablely because I have 5 weeks to go before kid # 2 is here), that if you were to say anything to me in a negative way, I may just stab you in the eye with a fork, think about it, how much pressure you would have to use to actually stab someone through the eyeball! Yeah, I’m that pregnant!
I hope that over time, one day my blog will become as successful as some of the ones I follow, I know it’s a working progress, and with a new bub here soon, I know it’s going to be hard to keep my blog active. But – as I said in my Organisation blog, I am always thinking ahead, I will have 7-10 blogs ready waiting, just in case I am completly off my head like I anticipate.
So there was this one day back in early 2015 where I was so down on myself while still in recovery from my accident. I had come leaps and bounds since that fateful day, but I was the biggest fat ass! As my brain was still healing, I slept a lot, most of the time with Sons of Anarchy in the background to drown out the outside noise. Because of my impulse post accident, I would fixate on certain things that would attract me, my 2 biggest – hot guys, mostly NQ farmers with dark features andddddd Sons of Anarchy!
I got up to the larger size of an 18 which is the biggest I have ever been in my life and I was so unhappy. At the time I was living at mum and dads and had a lot of time on my hands as I was still in the recovery process of my journey. I decided it was time to do something about my weight and how I felt about myself, because no one can change that but you, you have to want it, and I wanted it so bad!
So i went and bought a $99 exercise bike from Big W and as I would watch tv in my room I would get on my bike. I would ride for 20 minutes at a time. I would do this a few times a day and after a few weeks I found my clothes fitting better. I thought “Well this is a nice change, I’ll keep going.”
I set up a little gym on the deck outside of my bedroom with a set of weights, a fit ball, my bike and my walker. I started off doing hour sessions once a day, 7 days a week. I have always been bad at over doing it, but I felt better training 7 days a week, I think it comes down to how your body rests, and at the time all I was doing was training and resting.
I can’t remember exactly how long it took me to drop my first dress size but I remember it taking a while. Once that happened I signed up to Tweak Fitness and trained 3 times a week, sometimes 4 with a Personal Trainer (PT), for 30 minutes at a time. I would push myself almost to the point of being physically sick. When I fell pregnant all my doctors advised I stopped any exercise as they were unsure as to how pregnancy would fit me after a massive accident. It was hard, but I still ate well.
When my son was six weeks old I was back at gym, lucky babies sleep so much! I was also walking 5km after he woke of a morning, every morning, anywhere from 5am to 6am, I was brave enough to do a few sneaky 3am walks, only during the cane season (because at that time there’s heaps of people up going to work). After a few months I turned that walking into running. I eventually would walk a km or so and do a 300m sprint, changing to this made the weight slide off. I would give myself Sunday as a rest day and I gave myself a cheat day once a fortnight, but instead of eating shit for an entire day, I would allow myself one naughty thing. One of my trainers once told me, “If your body has been craving something all day, sleep on it – if you wake up and still want it, have it – don’t feel guilty, then return to living a healthy lifestyle.”
Exercise and nutrition go hand in hand, I slowly slowly changed my eating habits and after I had my son in 2017, I went proper health freak, which at times, gave my husband the shits because of what I wouldn’t cook anymore. But portion control also played a part in me being able to loose so much weight. Before I made a switch, I would easily smash a plate of dinner the size my husband would. I did a lot of research on nutrition and asked my PT a million questions, I attended a few nutrition seminars at my gym (which I loved)! I slowly tried many different approaches (many which failed) but eventually after many months I found what does & doesn’t work for my husband and I.
Changing our eating habits defiantly paid off for me! I lost over 30kg from when I had my son in June 2017 till when I fell pregnant late August 2018 or there abouts. I think the biggest advice I could give to anyone out there (remembering I’m not a PT or anything!) is YOU have to want it more than anything! you wont do it for a partner that tells you your fat (trust me, I’ve been there), you need to want to do it for yourself. My husband would stop me all the time and tell me how he didn’t care what I looked like, and I had the same response every time – “I know. I’m not doing this for you, I’m doing it for me!”
Yes, attending my PT sessions helped me heaps! but you don’t need a gym, or any exercise equipment at all to start living a healthier lifestyle. I read this book – Head First Health Fast by Leanne Hall, it was the kick in the ass I needed to get my head in the game. This was about the time where my husband lost it with the ways I would try to make our favourite meals by substituting certain ingredients with healthier alternatives – like raw sugar with rice malt syrup (my personal fave!) I was getting creative and some things I would make would fail, but the most part is successful. I have always had a passion for cooking, which we will defiantly talk about on a later date.
Things I have resorted to to stay motivated include reading some really awesome books before bed, I will add a list below for your convenience. I wasn’t afraid to message my Personal Trainer and let them (I have had about 5 or 6 from 2015 to present) know I’m finding it hard to stay in the game, I would always receive some inspirational advice, articles etc that would keep me focused. One thing I would not do was team up with anyone for gym or with exercising, if they said ‘not today’, I would cancel and I didn’t want that. Because of my struggles with chronic pain I had to postpone many, many sessions, but I would always make them up. It was so bloody hard but I did it!
You really do have to want to change for yourself, it won’t work if your doing it because anyone tells you your fat, your unhealthy etc. That’s just going to make you feel worse! A massive part is to start by trying to improve your mental state – start changing the way you see things from a negative to a positive and it will help you in a massive way to keep your head in the game.