My name is Amy Irvin, I was married in June 2018 and before that I was Amy Aquilini – Aquo.
In 2013, I had a horrific quad bike accident that left me with a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) and a severe brachial plexus injury to my right arm. I died a few times in ICU but the big guy upstairs had different plans for me.
It was always my life plan to become a mother, not uni, not a corporate job but a mother. I did think I would have my first child before I was 21, but I thank God I didn’t. Even with everything I have been through, I’ve never thought it would be too hard to raise a child now so in 2016, when I was 24, my now husband and I decided that we would start trying. We fell pregnant within a week and in June 2017 I gave birth to a healthy baby boy.
Now fast forward a year and a half and I’m pregnant with baby Irvin #2, meaning I will have 2 under the age of 2. I’m happy we decided to do it this way because we can all grow up together, meaning my husband and I can raise babies now, then when they grow up we can see different parts of the world.
I’m not sure if I will stop at 2, I suppose we will see how easy/hard it is on me. Apart from my arm, you wouldn’t be able to tell how my accident has left me with impairments that will never leave me. I suffer from chronic pain, every second of every bloody day! and at times from chronic fatigue, manic highs, depression, just to name a few.
My decision to start up this blog didn’t come lightly. I was thinking about doing so for years before I decided to. Part of the reasoning behind it was as my brain continues to improve, my language and grammar skills are more advanced now than they were prior to my accident, I think for that I have my father-in-law to thank. He is a very well educated man, I have a lot of time for him and I have learnt a lot from him.
Another reason for deciding upon this was that I know there are so many people out there that are TBI Survivors as well as people who have recently lost limbs or have limbs that for some reason or another no longer work. I want to help others get through the daily struggles that we all face and maybe make things a little easier for them than they were for me, it took me quite a while to adapt.
Now I’m quite capable in all aspects of life. I was right handed but have adapted to do everything with my left hand. I can hang out washing, do everything with my son (dress, change, etc), do the shopping, anything you may think “Oh she won’t be able to that”, I’m pretty sure I will be able to prove you wrong, it may take me a bit to get it, but with my determination, I’ll get it.
With all my pain and struggles I have been through in the past 5 odd years I have never once said “Why me”. I’m very hard headed, that’s probably the reason why I’m still here, and am at where I’m at. I’m also very determined so if I believe I’m going to succeed at something 100%, I will always follow it through. If anyone – family, friends say I can’t do something I will do everything in my power to prove them wrong and 99% of the time, I succeed.
If you have any questions about what I’ve been through, hit up ‘Aquo’s Page’ on Facebook, it will give you a good insite on my journey. So that’s a bit about me and what I’ve been through, I will have regular articles on a heap of different topics of the struggles, successes and failures (which aren’t that many, I’m too hard headed to fail) that I have been through. If you like what you read, please please drop a comment…. I would love to hear from you.
“Let me tell you the secret that has led to my goal. My strength lies solely in my tenacity.” – Louis Pasteur.