I was born – and have lived (bar from a rebellious stage when I left high school and said I was never coming back) – and vow to die in the small country town of Ingham. Sorry to disappoint the haters – but do you really think I was going anywhere without a fight?
My two sisters and I were raised to be very confident, very outspoken, not afraid of anything young ladies. Six months of the year mum was a single parent (due to the sugar cane crushing season) and we didn’t have dad there with his old ‘Don’t make her do something she doesn’t want to do’ line so we all become our own versions of strong. We have the queen of Ice Queens, The queen of survivors, and the artistic flare of the family !
Still to this day when mum wants me to do something I’m not keen on I pull out my ‘my dad said I don’t have to do anything I don’t want to do’ line – I’m 27.
It’s really important to teach girls from the time they start to understand the world that no matter what, they are strong. Raise your daughters to be independant and not be the victim of anything that comes at them in life. Growing up will still be a challenge, I suffered from terrible anxiety through school. But as they get the hang of being a young woman, they will come out the other end with a set of balls as big as a bull!
No but seriously – give your daughters the best tools to become the strongest, most confident version of themself and she will go far in life.
When people ask me how I’ve come as far as I have I say – ‘Well, I wasn’t going to roll over and die. I was given a second chance (Or third or forth, I’m like a cat – 9 lives but we will talk about that another day) so I’m going to tell my story to my whole town, and if I get to tell the world – great!
People need to discover their own superpower. Mine is my strength, my honesty and lack of filter all fall into it but I’m strong. No – I’m fucking strong! You go through what I have in my last 6 years and let me know how you go! And no, that’s not a challenge – so settle down.
I want to become a public figure who promotes my town to ensure there is a town for my boys to grow up in. Ingham is a beautiful place and it would be a shame to see that all fade away.
There comes a time in life when you need to stop requiring validation from others and simply start living your best life.
According to the ‘culture trip’ there are 11 Inspiring Australian Women Who Changed History… I want to be the 12th Australian woman to change history!
Here’s a list of those wonderful ladies!
Wilhelmina (Mina) Wylie (1891-1984) and Sarah (Fanny) Durack (1889-1956)
Edith Cowan (1861-1932)
Evelyn Scott (1935-2017)
Maude Bonney (1897-1994)
Jane Foss Barff (1863-1937)
Faith Thomas (1933-)
Louise Mack (1870-1935)
Nova Peris (1971-)
Elizabeth Kenny (1880-1952)
Gladys Elphick (1904-1988)
Elizabeth Blackburn (1948-)
I would love more than anything in the world to become number 12. I would love more than anything for the list to read:- The 12th Amazing woman who changed Australian history – Amy Shannon Aquilini – Irvin (Aquo)!
And… here are a few sayings I have found through the years that I wrote down that have helped me dig my way out of the darkest bloody hole you have ever seen! I don’t think they are famous quotes – but I apologize if they are and I haven’t referenced them!
- Be that strong girl that everyone knew would make it through the worst!
- Being a strong woman is misconstrued to be evil and ugly – (I want to change that!)
- Nothing is more impressive than a woman who is secure in the unique way god made her. (I want to be her!)
- Don’t be the woman that needs a man, be a woman a man needs. (Be your own outgoing self!)
- Be the goddess who honors her body as the sacred temple of the spirit of life. With each inhale as a prayer of gratitude. (My 1st fave quote ever. That’s why I exercise like the crazy person I am!)
- Don’t depend too much on anyone in the world because even your own shadow leaves you when your in darkness. (My 2nd fave quote ever! Relating to my darkest time yet!)
- May your coffee be strong and your heart be grateful! (I love this! There is nothing better in life than that deep breath and exhale after your first sip of coffee in the morning – not even sex! but – sex is pretty good)
Today isn’t a great day for me, I woke up and couldn’t drag my ass out of bed, slowly slowly I got up as my husband was going out the door but I see it like this – I’M STILL HERE! – That is my running song! It gets me so pumped!
I may be sitting here typing as my baby is asleep in the bouncer but I feel I’ve been productive. My kids are fed, they’re clean, I’ve got dinner defrosted and will have it on the table by 5.30pm so no matter when hubby gets home dinner is ready for him to eat. Usually I stop what I’m doing and we sit down together and discuss the days happenings, but if there’s something pressing – i’ll go handle that and the household moves on.
When I lose concentration I’ll go make a coffee and play with the kids. I have all my apps linked to all my devices so if my 2 year old wants a cuddle after a big day, we sit down and put Blippi on tv and i’ll work away on my phone or tablet. Tonight after we have all had a shower I will put our clothes in the wash. Then the kitchen is cleaned and just before I TRY switch off for the night the clothes get either hung up or depending on my day (and how much of a head-f$#k it was) they will go in the dryer.
So guys – that for me is a lazy day, those days where you don’t want to do shit! (and on that note – i’ll go do a 30min sesh of weights… brb.) So I did that and a million ideas come to me while I was working up a sweat but now I sit back down you think I can remember any of them! See I don’t know if it’s scaring from my TBI (traumatic brain injury) or mum brain… but I think every person in the world would benefit from using the app ‘Elevate‘ to exercise their brain so that humans can get back in the lead of the race between humans and computers! or… at least try!